Jamey Rodemeyer

Jamey Rodemeyer ( March 21, 1997 – September 18, 2011 ) was a bisexual teenager 1 known for his work and activism against homophobia and bullying . He committed suicide as a result of the constant harassment he received from schoolmates. 2

Personal life

Jamey 3 lived with her parents, Tim and Tracy Rodemeyer, and her sister, Alyssa, in an address on the outskirts of Buffalo, New York . 4 He had stated that he was bisexual and therefore faced serious problems of bullying. 5 His greatest inspiration comes from his idol, Lady Gaga . He always referred to her in her videos and quoted lyrics from her songs to guide others with the same problems as him. 6


Rodemeyer suffered from bullying because of his sexuality in high school. Anonymous comments posted on his logbook Formspring include hate messages such as, “I do not care if you die, no one cares, just do it 🙂 It’s a step toward a happier world!”. 7 Despite that, he used his experiences to make videos and upload them to YouTube under the name of xgothemo99xx , in order to help other adolescents suffering from similar experiences. He also made a video especially for the project ” It Gets Better “, a site that prevents teen suicide. 2


Rodemeyer was found dead the morning of September 18, 2011, apparently the cause was suicide by hanging. Before his death, he posted on Twitter a message addressed to Lady Gaga. The message said, “@ladygaga adios mother monster, thanks for everything you’ve done, paws up forever”. Referring to Fig.


The Amherst Police Department began a criminal investigation following the death of Rodemeyer, assisted by Erie County District Attorney Frank A. Sedita III. The investigation lasted nine weeks and included the analysis of Jamey’s computer and cell phone records. Despite the evidence found, sufficient evidence was not found to process. The investigation was closed without charge. Referring to Fig.

The news of Jamey’s death resulted in the indignation of supporters around the world. After his death, Tim and Tracy Rodemeyer were interviewed by various media about their son and his struggles against bullying. Both parents took advantage of opportunities to promote peace and equality. 10

Upon learning of her death, Lady Gaga declared that she was upset, and that she spent the days “reflecting, crying and screaming”. She dedicated her song ” Hair ” to Jamey during her performance at the iHeartRadio Music Festival music festival . Time later Lady Gaga met with President Barack Obama to discuss what her government could do to prevent bullyng school. Referring to Fig.

Because of her death, current Miss New York Kaitlin Monte founded an online petition bringing the issue of cyberbullying (known as Jamie’s Law) to New York lawmakers. 11 Shortly thereafter , State Senator Jeffrey Klein proposed new legislation on cyberbullying. The two teamed up to launch the New York Cyberbully Census . 12

That same month, another teenager, Jamie Hubley , committed suicide for the same reason. Although he never spoke explicitly of Rodemeyer, comparisons were to be expected.

The FOX TV show Glee in Chapter 3×07 “I Kissed a Girl” refers to Jamey when Finn ( Cory Monteith ) talks to Santana ( Naya Rivera ) about teen suicides in the LGBT community .


  1. Back to top↑ Sarah Anne Hughes (September 21, 2011). «Jamey Rodemeyer, bullied teen who made ‘It Gets Better’ video, commits suicide» . The Washington Post . Retrieved on April 6, 2012 .
  2. ↑ Jump to:a b Anahad O’Connor (September 21, 2011). «Suicide Draws Attention to Gay Bullying» . The New York Times . Retrieved on October 17, 2011 .
  3. Back to top↑ «Jamey T. RODEMEYER Obituary» . The Buffalo News . Accessed November 30, 2011 .
  4. Back to top↑ «Mom to bury bullied in Lady Gaga lyric shirt» . CBS News. 2011 = 09-22 . Accessed November 30, 2011 .
  5. Back to top↑ LaVictoire, Bridgette P. (September 28, 2011). «Alyssa Rodemeyer Talks About Continued Bullying of Late Brother Jamey» . Lez Get Real. Archived from the original on November 28, 2015 . Accessed November 30, 2011 .
  6. Back to top↑ «Jamey Rodemeyer’s Suicide Gets Lady Gaga Angry, ‘Bullying is Hate Crime ‘ » . International Business Times. September 22, 2011 . Accessed November 30, 2011 .
  7. Back to top↑ Sandra Tan (September 20, 2011, updated September 27, 2011). «Teenager struggled with bullying before taking his life» . The Buffalo News . Archived from the original on July 30, 2012 . Retrieved on October 17, 2011 .
  8. ↑ Jump to:a b Macatee, Rebecca (September 26, 2011). «Lady Gaga Meets President Obama!» . UsMagazine.com . Retrieved on October 13, 2011 .
  9. Back to top↑ Sandra Tan (November 23, 2011). ‘Police determines Rodemeyer incidents not prosecutable’ . The Buffalo News. Archived from the original on July 21, 2012 . Accessed November 30, 2011 .
  10. Back to top↑ Susan Donaldson James (September 22, 2011). “Jamey Rodemeyer Suicide: Police Consider Criminal Bullying Charges” . ABC News . Retrieved on October 17, 2011 .
  11. Back to top↑ «Miss New York Petitions Against Cyberbullying In Wake Of Williamsville Teen’s Suicide: UPDATED | New York Daily News » . Nydailynews.com. October 3, 2011 . Retrieved on November 8, 2011 .
  12. Back to top↑ «Klein, Scarborough, Miss NY, Launch New York Cyberbully Census | New York State Senate . ” Nysenate.gov. October 13, 2011 . Retrieved on November 8, 2011 .